How to Start and Keep Conversations Going With Women
Starting conversations with women is something that must be
learned. You need to be prepared with conversation topics, funny
lines, cocky attitude that will get a reaction without being an
instant turnoff. How do you walk this tightrope?
I will repeat that last statement: Practice.
You have to be ready for every circumstance, every occurrence, every chance meeting with women to start a conversation. Practice talking to women wherever you are. Some great places to do this is your local shopping mall. Walk into a store, pick something from the rack and talk about it to the sales girl.
Yes, it has to be a sales girl, not sales guy, ok? But keep in mind, she has to talk to you, she's paid to be there. You're not really getting anywhere but more experienced talking to women. Don't come across as a stalker.
Say something that needs a response, for example:
Look at a ladies shirt (book, magazine, pots and pans) and say "Do you have anything to go with this for my mom?", after her reply, whatever it is, say something like "Can I get her to call you if she doesn't like it?"
Think cocky and funny. Keep your comments to her funny but say them straight. It's the calm delivery that will get you past the first couple of words.
After a few days of practice on sales girls you can graduate to other female shoppers. And actually ask for email addresses and phone numbers. Rejection is expected, it's how you handle it that will make you a success in meeting women. Here is a recent email that will help you understand the practice aspect of this technique.
I'm only 18 and even look young for my age, I got into this newsletter while researching about attraction for a college level course I was taking in High school.
I've found out about pheromones, facial and body symmetry, gestures, colors etc... You're newsletters surprised me the most. It makes sense to me just reading what you have to say, realizing that the things you "need to do" aren't seemingly nice or logical, but they work.
Before your newsletters, I thought that I looked too young or something negative about myself.
But recently, I've had amazing "luck" with girls because of the things I've learned from you. I had been introduced to a very attractive girl from out of town a few days ago and have been trying some of your techniques.
I've made eye contact and waited for her to look away first, been C & F, teased with sexual contact leaving her dumbfounded and wanting me more etc. etc. All I can say is that it's amazing how your strategies work, like learning how to ride a bike.
This girl just left back to her home town and is calling me non stop almost every day.
Could you just send out more examples of great things you've done so that I'll have more examples of different situations?
I loved the ones you've used of waitresses
or at bars, but what about other places, other conversations that
might trigger different C & F comments? Thanks again!
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To answer your question, I think you should take some time yourself and think through various situations...
Take out a piece of paper, and write "Bookstore" at the top.
Then list 3 different situations:
1) She's reading a magazine
2) She's in the romance section.
3) She's in line at the counter.
Then, under each one, come up with 10 different possible comments you could make. If you take some time and THINK about it, you'll come up with all kinds of great stuff. Join my weekly newsletter, you'll get some killer ideas as well.
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I'm still having great success with a rekindled marriage using you're Tips on my wife. Thanks a million.
Listen, I keep reading over and over in the newsletters guys wanting to know how to start, then keep a conversation going with women.
I work for a major oil company and have been through many of there training courses on dealing with people. One particularly interesting course was on "Information Seeking". For this we first practiced picking up on "Key words or phrases" the subject said.
For instance, I'll try and give an example using c&f even though you wouldn't use this professionally on the job.
Let's say you see this great looking chick on the street and you tell her, "That's an unusual looking dress you're wearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?" She says," Your mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy store."
Key Words: Old Navy.
"Oh, so you're in the Navy, huh?" "No silly. You know, the big store over at the Mall."
Key word: Mall.
"Oh, so you like going to the Mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy them also?"
"My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I'll have you know!" Key phrases: "girlfriends are neat dressers" and "dress is popular".
"Well, if your girlfriends are neat dressers in a popular dress like you're wearing then I'm going into the shower curtain clothing business..." I know, this is a lame example but the lessons are this.
1) You start a conversation with however you want then pick out key words or phrases from what the person says.
2) You repeat them in what you say then listen for new key words in there next response.
3) You add a little something new into the conversation REPEATING there words you're using as Key words or phrases. This tells them you're listening, even though you're turning things around to be c/f in this situation.
Once we learned to keep someone talking for 5 minutes, then 15 minutes the company actually hired total strangers from a job soliciting company to come and be our subjects. While being videotaped we had to get the person talking and keep them talking for 30 minutes.
One important note: If a person brings up something personal or whatever, they wouldn't have mentioned it if they didn't want to talk about it.
These are great to Key in on. My subject mentioned she was going through a divorce and her ex-husband was a total jerk.
I keyed in on this and it's amazing what a total stranger will tell you once you build a little rapport.
When watching the video you pick up on mistakes or you see something different you could have said. You also pick up on Key words and phases you missed. It just takes a little practice.
This is just one example of how you can start a conversation and keep it going. Hopefully it can be of help to you're readers.
This is an EXCELLENT description of how to keep a conversation going, keep it interesting and unpredictable, and talk about ANYTHING and have it be fun.
Read it again.
Now let me sprinkle a little magic dust on this, and tell you how I use this technique personally.
When I'm having a conversation with a woman, I'm not just listening for ANY key word... I'm listening for a particular KIND of key word (or words).
I'm always on the alert for any words or phrases that can be
twisted, turned around, misinterpreted, and misconstrued (is that a
word?) in one of a few particular ways...
...namely in a way that says she stupid, ditzy, sexually crazed, or acting suspicious.
For instance, in your example above you suggested the following:
"That's an unusual looking dress you're wearing. Was that made out
of a shower curtain?" She says," Your mean! No, I bought this from
the Old Navy store." Key Words: Old Navy. "Oh, so you're in the
Navy, huh?" "No silly. You know, the big store over at the Mall."
Key word: Mall. "Oh, so you like going to the Mall and buying
strange looking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy them also?"
"My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I'll
have you know!" Key phrases: "girlfriends are neat dressers" and
"dress is popular". "Well, if your girlfriends are neat dressers in
a popular dress like you're wearing then I'm going into the shower
curtain clothing business..."
Good. Nice one.
Now, let's dial it up a little bit...
She says "No, I bought this from the Old Navy store..."
Instead of just keying into "Navy" and saying "Oh, so you're in the navy, huh?", why not take it to the next step and actually MAKE FUN of her.
"Oh, so is this what guys used to wear in the Navy a long time
ago... in the OLD Navy?"
Now you're BUSTING on her as well, AND it's funny. She says "No silly. you know, the big store over at the Mall." You might try "What kind of MALL are YOU shopping at? And do your girlfriends buy dresses like that one too?"
Again, you're hinting that she has funky taste and she shops in weird places. She says "My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I'll have you know!"
You could go with "Oh, you have girlfriends? You have more than one?
Do they all know that you think of them as a girlfriend? Or is one
of them the special one? By the way, if you have cute girlfriends,
then I think you and I are going to get along VERY well."
...are you with me here?
What I'm doing is NOT ONLY looking for key words to latch onto, but I'm ALSO looking for ways to spin them to make fun, tease, and subtly suggest various kinds of "racy" topics.
When done in a funny way, it's magic. Once upon a time, a guy I know
very well went into a nightclub. He was talking to a girl at that
club for awhile, when she said "Well, I'm getting tired. I think
it's time for me to go home." The guy answered "Go HOME?! I just met
you. I'm not going HOME with you!"
She said "No, I mean I'M going home. I'm tired."
He shot back "Maybe you don't hear me. I'm not going home with you, so don't even ask anymore."
She said "No, that's not what I'm saying..."
He replied "And besides, I'm sure my place is nicer than yours... so if anything, you're coming home with ME."
This went on and on for about an hour or so. And you guessed it, she went home with him.
I saw it happen with my own two eyes.
Another off-the-wall (but pretty funny) example of this is a story
that a good friend of mine told me about one of his friends. His
friend was talking to a girl at a club, and she was talking about
what kinds of things she enjoyed doing with her spare time.
She said "...I like to go clubbing..."
He came back with "Oh, like baby seals?"
lol... Now, that might not get a girl to come home with you, but it's damn funny. Love it.
This technique is GREAT for keeping a conversation fresh, fun, unpredictable, and FUNNY (if you know how to do it just right).
Right now you're probably thinking to yourself:
"Wow, that's really great. I sure wish there was a resource available that could show me hundreds of great ideas like that... so I could know exactly what to do from when I first meet a woman to the first date... all the way up until we get physical and beyond..."
Thanks for your letter, David D.
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